Dour , gloomy or brooding. A surname. Expressive of a mood, especially a sullen or gloomy mood. Christian evangelist. Origin of moody. Cognate with Dutch moedig , German mutig , Swedish modig. Moody Sentence Examples.
The moody teenager was back. She'd never been moody or wimpy or weak! Habitually moody people routinely prioritize their own feelings over and above your or my feelings. If, heaven forbid, we are ever moody, they may not be able to stand it. Others find themselves worrying about what so-and-so will think. This emotional non-sharing unconcern with how you feel and over-concern with how they feel is a kind of greed no matter how you dress it up.
Just being understanding or just listening may help the moody person if their mood isn't unconsciously aligned with controlling others , but if they are gaining something attention, influence, power, status from being moody, then they won't stop until:.
I'm a firm believer that moods like holiday photos should not be inflicted on one work colleague by another or by a professional onto customers. Part of professionalism is mood management. I realize all this may sound judgemental, but I have judgement and I can't help but use it sometimes. So how can you best manage the fallout form other people's moodiness? If you know someone who always seems to have to dictate the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are a dictator.
Another term for dictator is bully. If your empathy, patience, advice, and general attention-giving doesn't seem to help them and you are suffering because of their moodiness and they don't seem to care about that , then consider carefully: Do you need this person in your life? A friendship is reciprocal; it should be give and take - but not in the sense that you're always giving and they're always taking. If you have to have them in your life for whatever reason, then consider the following:.
If we're not careful, the moody person can start to get preferential treatment because, well, it just seems easier to 'smooth things over' for them. However, short-term ease equals long-term hassle. Remember: people won't change if they are being 'rewarded' for not changing. Decide now not to be unduly influenced; stop tiptoeing around this person or making special allowances.
One woman who came for therapy would lament that a co-worker would tell drawn-out stories about her weekend when she was in the mood, but would often look bored or miserable when other people began to talk about what they'd been doing. My client was finding that she had stopped talking about herself at all to this woman and had basically become "rent-an-ear". I suggested that what I was about to suggest may seem counter-intuitive, but that there was method in my madness.
My client did this for several weeks. At first, the other woman sighed, looked bored, irritated "at one point I even thought she was going to collapse onto the floor" ; but eventually, all that stopped and she even started to listen respectfully. Being moody can confer 'benefits' and incentives, but only if those around the moody person let it. Reflect for a moment: just what, do you suspect, is this person getting from acting out?
All behaviour is purposeful. Is it a bigger share of the attention pie? Is it getting out of work? Is it simply control of others for its own sake? One woman told me how her middle-aged mother would always become suddenly down in mood whenever her daughter was going away. The daughter would then take her mother with her even on her honeymoon! By not letting this woman's moodiness influence her at work, my client blocked the moodiness from 'working', at least in that context, and made it a redundant force.
Some moody people may use anger as a way of influencing you. Or they may clam up and not speak or suddenly start speaking very negatively about something dear to you. One day, good cop; the next, bad - shifting sands and you wondering where you stand. Because they seem like they are not emotional but deep down they are sensitive. They may be a very loving and caring person, but fail to express their emotions.
Moody people have a sensitive side too, their mood can change in a blink of an eye. They use their heart more than their brain to make decisions.
Moody people need their own space , forcing them to talk or do something will not work at all. They will do things only when they feel like to do or when they are in a mood. They can be really grumpy sometimes.
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